Homeschooling- MY NEEDS?

Welcome to the September Carnival of Natural Parenting: We’re all home schoolers!

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared how their children learn at home as a natural part of their day. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Is it bad to say I homeschool for me?

For my own peace?

For my sanity?

For my obvious control issues?

What about if I homeschool for the sake of not wanting to break my own heart every day for 18 years?

Sending my kids off to school would break my heart…..honestly. When the baby was in the NICU I had enrolled Fast Eddy in VPK because with all that was going on I had mixed feelings on how equipped I was to homeschool the boys and care for a high needs newborn. I tried to be happy, I tried not to cry, but the harder I tried the worse it got. Mind you his class was only 3 hours long each day, but it was 3 hours too many to me. I missed him, and didn’t know what to do with my day without him(I cried- no lie every day for 3 months). I had Carrot Top home, but it wasn’t the same and I knew it had to stop. Luckily, I have a husband that 100% supports the decision to homeschool. With my family’s support and an amazing faith I pulled him out and allowed my heart to be mended.

Since then I have prayed and prayed and prayed for peace in my decision. When August rolled around this year, and it was time to officially start Kindergarten, my heart was still. I finally received the peace I needed to move forward. I knew that I didn’t want to miss ANYTHING!! First time reading a book, first time writing his name, making friends, funny moments, first crush, or even first bullying. I wanted a journal packed full of firsts and great memories! I wanted to breathe it all in and most importantly I wanted to be there to guide him. Isn’t that my job as a mother?

Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it”. When he is old- not 5 old. I couldn’t possible send him out into the world and expect him to know his way. What time will I have if he is in school 75% of his first 18 years? As a woman of faith, I feel the bible CALLS me to keep them home.

I was/am confident in my family’s choice to school our children in their natural environment.
I want my children to explore. I want them know what slugs feel like, what dirt tastes like, how silly dancing in the rain is, and see animals up close.

I want them to know who their family really is. I want their best friends to be each other, and I want them to be soo rooted in the word that they will always fall on it in times of need.


I don’t want to miss those smiles that light up the whole room.

So what if I homeschool for me?

Sometimes it feels like I am homeschooling for my own needs, but at the end of the day my children are the ones that truly benefit from it. I am so thankful for the opportunity to take this journey with them. It is definitely a win-win situation.

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A is for Apple {But right now it’s more fun to pick apples!} — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment has a four-year-old who wisely knows she must forgo the worksheets for now and do things with her mother if she’s going to learn.

Melissa

Melissa

Emergency room nurse by day..........Social Media junkie by night.................and loving mom to 4 little sprouts every moment of my life.
Melissa
Melissa

Comments

  1. Love being able to be there for all of those firsts!

  2. While I am confident that HS’ing will give my son the best opportunities to learn at his pace and to blossom to his fullest potential, I don’t have a problem admitting that I’ll be happy to be a part of that journey.
    ~Dionna @ Code Name: Mama

  3. Completely agree! I don’t want to miss all those great moments either! I am sad when I see how distant public school kids are from their parents (not all of course), I want our family to be different. I want us to be close! I am certainly homeschooling for me, not just my kids :)

  4. My eldest did go to school for the first year, and it wasn’t painful for me and I didn’t cry. However, I did miss his company (and so did his sister) and it was really a square-peg round-hole situation between he and school. And yes, there ARE advantages for the homeschooling parents! No rushing around in the morning, no packed lunches that have to be peanut-free, no worry that since your child eats only peanut-butter sandwiches they won’t eat anything! And yes, I too am so glad that I did get to teach my son how to read, and subsequently my daughter and didn’t have to miss any of those firsts :)

  5. well said! I’m happy to be 100% a part of my kids lives.

  6. That is absolutely one of the most beautiful sentiments I have read. That is the profound depth of what being a mother, a parent truly signifies. Thank you for making it cool to truly love ones children that much and in that manner.

  7. Very well written Melissa :-) Loved this post! I am right there with you!

  8. Awww. this gave me shivers up and down my spine. I can see myself saying these things in a few years time. Funny enough I’m really big on the ‘firsts’ and hadn’t even considered the ‘firsts’ at school! wow! More food for thought. What a lovely post. I’m with you though – I didn’t have a baby so someone else can enjoy her smiles and raise her!

  9. Hope you guys are having a great fall so far. Following from TTA. Follow back; we love to post great ideas for incorporating fun science into education. :)

  10. what a great post! I am contemplating homeschooling my daughter as she is fastly approaching school age now. I am leaning towards homeschooling now so i dont miss all the great moments and can teach her what i believe is right

  11. I don’t homeschool, but two of my siblings homeschool their children with great success. I think everyone has different reasons for doing it, all valid.

  12. I don’t think what you are explaining is strange at all. When I think of sending my daughter off to school, it scares me. She is 4 now. We are doing Pre-K at home. I am going to homeschool her at least until 4th grade. Then we’ll see. :)

  13. i would love to home school my son when he gets older, thank you for posting this its good to get some good info about it

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